If it is out of your hands, it deserves freedom from your mind too.

Janki Shastri
5 min readAug 23, 2023

“Letting Go: The Liberation of Mental Bonds”

In the complex tapestry of human existence, the interplay between control and surrender often takes center stage. One of the most challenging lessons to master is the art of letting go. The adage, “If it is out of your hands, it deserves freedom from your mind too,” encapsulates a profound truth that speaks to the human tendency to hold onto that which is beyond our control. Kindly allow me to explore the significance of this idea, its implications for mental well-being, and strategies to cultivate a mindset of release and acceptance.

“Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.”

— Steve Maraboli

At the core of this concept lies the recognition that clinging to matters beyond our control only leads to unnecessary mental turmoil. From personal relationships to professional endeavors, there are countless instances where circumstances unfold outside our jurisdiction. It is human nature to desire agency and influence, yet there comes a point when excessive preoccupation with uncontrollable factors becomes counterproductive. Results… Stress, anxiety, embarrassment, despair or fear of failure! Invariant more than explained… beyond our assertions.

“Letting go isn’t a one-time thing, it’s something you have to do every day, over and over again.”

— Dawson’s Creek

Consider a person awaiting exam results. Once the paper is submitted, the outcome is no longer within their grasp. Obsessive rumination on what cannot be changed strains mental health, fuels anxiety, and impedes productivity. The wisdom of releasing such outcomes from one’s mind becomes evident. This liberation allows the individual to redirect their focus towards areas where they can exert influence, fostering a healthier mindset.To be honest its more impressionistic and ostensibly harder than reckoned. Some of you might say oh! Easier said than done.. right? Agreed. It’s super frustrating. I have been in this grinder too myself and I know how it feels. Pain , agony, stigma, anguish.. etc are the bi-products and the churning is an interminable process. But trust me… You got this!

“One of the most courageous decisions you’ll ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soul.”

— Brigitte Nicole

Let’s dive in deep …

In relationships, the idea holds similar weight. People often invest emotionally in the choices and actions of others. However, it is crucial to recognize that individuals have their autonomy, and attempting to manipulate their decisions only leads to resentment and strain. Whether it’s the end of a romantic relationship or the actions of a friend, acknowledging that these aspects are beyond control is pivotal. Allowing such matters to be free from the constraints of one’s mind paves the way for emotional growth and resilience. Now; tell me is it this easy? Darts though but it’s not. Regardless: can we give it a try at least? Nevertheless, how? The whole point is first we consent to it, concede, and move forward to Belle Epoque.

“In the process of letting go you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself.”

~Deepak Chopra

Even more…

The journey towards releasing control is not devoid of challenges. The human psyche has a propensity to ruminate, fret, and dwell. Thus, the process of freeing one’s mind from matters beyond control necessitates conscious effort and mindfulness. Techniques such as meditation, journaling, and cognitive reframing can aid in redirecting thoughts and fostering an attitude of acceptance. By acknowledging the difference between what can be managed and what cannot, individuals can gradually untangle themselves from the web of needless worries. wow! Theoretically, this sounds incredible … fancy. One might think it’s as easy as and similar to climbing Jack’s Beanstalk. Some of us might have exuberant excuses to be ignorant of the facts as well as techniques. Time constraints play a crucial role too. We are so busy trying to reach Zenith we often miss out on ground foot.

“To let go is to release the images and emotions, the grudges and fears, the clingings and disappointments of the past that bind our spirit.”

— Jack Kornfield

Furthermore, embracing this philosophy unlocks the door to greater serenity and mental clarity. When one releases the grip on uncontrollable circumstances, mental space becomes available for creativity, innovation, and personal growth. The energy once consumed by futile fretting can now be channeled into endeavors that foster personal development and happiness. In essence, this principle contributes to a more harmonious relationship with the self. Primarily, this is often neglected – the relationship with the self. I have always been my own biggest critic and never failed to bedevil myself with severity, rudeness, and at times – hatred. Ultimately, I was taught the lesson of self-love in life in an unprecedented way which itself is an intriguing topic. (May be for next time). Voila! I learned and am glad i could.

“I demolish my bridges behind me…then there is no choice but to move forward.”

— Fridtjof Nansen

Let’s put it across like…

In the grand tapestry of life, relinquishing control is not synonymous with passivity. Instead, it signifies a profound understanding of the boundaries between one’s sphere of influence and the realm of the beyond. Untapped and un- interfered .It is a reminder that while control over external events may be limited, mastery over one’s own mind is attainable. This balance between agency and acceptance is the key to lasting peace and genuine well-being. Apparently; it may sound like coming from a Zen master and although am not qualified as one I have experienced it for sure. I too have learned it a tough way. Still learning and will retain learning as this is like an inevitable software upgrade; to self-amelioration. Mindfulness, awareness, compassion, .. etc. may seem out of reach but are integral threads woven into our ethos.

“The only real battle in life is between hanging on and letting go.”

— Shannon L. Alder

Come on ; wake up and smell some coffee ☕️

In fruition, the aphorism “If it is out of your hands, it deserves freedom from your mind too” encapsulates a timeless truth that reverberates through the corridors of human experience. (Self first) .The art of letting go is a lesson in navigating the delicate dance between control and surrender. By releasing mental bonds to that which is beyond our influence, individuals can nurture mental health, amplify personal growth, and cultivate a profound sense of peace. As we cruise through life’s ebbs and flows, this principle remains a guiding light, reminding us to grant ourselves the liberation that comes with embracing the power of release.

“There are things that we never want to let go of, people we never want to leave behind. But keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world, it’s the beginning of a new life.”

Let it go!

Peace be to all 🙏🏻

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Janki Shastri

A writer, a poet, a translator/interpreter , a maverick, sharing my heart out , my expression in words.